Love, Relationship and Sacrifices

Assalamu'alaikum.
Hello dearies.
I have just started my master program.
Quite busy recently.

Well. How's life so far?
Mine was beyond awesome.
Hamdan lillah.
I Hope everything will keep being this smooth for me.

Undeniably, life gets a lil bit lonely.
And when I started to whine about it,
My bestie, Sha told me that I should find a boyfriend.
An online boyfriend perhaps.
I just laughed and said no.
I don't think that's one of ways for me to find my imam.
Online dating? Oh hell no.
I am not only skeptic about this online thingy but there is another reason behind my no.
Which I didn't spell out to Sha.

I decided that I don't want coupling.
Regardless it in an online relationship or a real one.
I just don't want to involve in any of them.
As I grow older, I realise something that I missed out before.
What is important is not how much that we have but how much barakah is in what we do have.
Yup. Its barakah.
If I am going to have a relationship, I want a relationship which have lotsa barakah in it.
So that it'll last till jannah. Biiznillah.
Actually the way I see a relationship now has saved me from lotsa sufferings and heartbroken.
I start to live more happily and full of positivity.
Love should only start after marriage.
How do we find our other half if we're not coupling?
Have you watched Entangled?
The princess didn't even left her tower yet she still met her prince charming.
That's what we called fate.
Yes.Fate.
Allah has decreed about our spouse,death, and rizqi even before we were borned.
You just have to have faith in that.
So,we just have to wait without doing anything?
Of course not.
Everything in life doesn't come free of charge my dear.
It needs lotsa efforts.
What we can do is to prepare ourselves.
Gain as much knowledge as possible.
Be it about your deen, about parenting, about fiqh and so on.
Improve our ibadah and akhlaq (manners) whether in real world or in cyberspace.
Both mirrored our level of integrity.
Then, of course sujood and make lotsa dua.
Why dua is important?
We as human only can see and value the outer appearance of a person.
Regardless of how many years we went for dates, what we saw was just the outer personality of our bf/gf.
The one who knows their hearts and true colours is just the one and only, Al-'Alim- (The Omniscient).
So, dua is very important.
Through dua, we ask our Creator to judge and choose the best person for us.
For He is All-Knowing. Whose choice can compared to His, aite?
So, do our parts and leave the rest to our Lord, Ar-Rahman & Ar-Rahim.
Have faith. Rock your iman! *peace*

p/s: Falling in love isn't a sin for it is fitrah. But it is the way we handle it which leads to jannah or hellfire.
       Fi Hifzillah.

Q: But now I am already in a relationship, what should I do?
Don't worry everyone makes mistakes.
Me,too, used to have lotsa mistakes.Again and again.
Even I did the same mistakes and it takes me 9 years to realize that I am on the wrong track.
End your relationship. I know it is probably the hardest thing to do.
Been there, done that dear.
But if we leave something for the sake of Allah, He'll replace it with something better.
Have faith. a big faith.
And after all you have nothing to loose.
If both of you are destined to be together, Allah will reunite both of you again, in a more barakah way.InshaAllah.
If not, then, it means no and it proves that no matter how long you stay in that relationship, it is just a waste of time since both of you are not meant to be together in the end.
So, do some sacrifices today. For Allah sake and I promise you won't regret them.
Most important, Stay steadfast.Stay strong. May Allah bless. *big hugs*